What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done? Skydiving? Bungee jumping? Moving to your dream location? Quitting your job and starting a new business that you’ve been thinking about for years? Trying a new hobby? Travelling to a far away country? Or ordering something new off the menu at your favorite restaurant?
My wife Linda ready to skydive!
An adventure is an exciting or unusual experience. It may also be a bold, risky undertaking with an uncertain outcome. Adventures may be activities with some potential for physical danger, financial, relational, spiritual or psychological risk.
My wife Linda and I are adventure junkies! We’ve gone skydiving. I’ve jumped headfirst off a 100ft. tower attached only to a bungee cord. We’ve been parasailing, whitewater rafting, hot-air ballooning, zip-lining and more. We’ve travelled in all 48 contiguous states. We’ve been around the world. We love adventure!
Yet, the most adventurous thing we’ve ever done is to move our three children over 1,000 miles away from our closest family members to a relatively new city, knowing only four other people who lived there, and deciding to start Cape Christian, a new brand new church that would reach out to young unchurched families in a contemporary way, helping them experience the fullness of God. That was nearly 27 years ago.
After just celebrating the 26th birthday of Cape Christian on Easter Sunday of 2013, we have been reflecting on the rewards of living a life of adventure. Here’s just a sample of our reflections:
We’ve Never Been Bored – When you live with adventure, there is always something new to experience. We have previously imagined some things we’ve seen but God always has a way of surprising us with new and fresh breakthroughs that supersede our greatest imaginations. We always love to anticipate what may happen next.
We’ve Always Been Alive – When you refuse to coast and get comfortable, you stay alive inside. If your life becomes so predictable that you are just going through well-rehearsed motions that you could do in your sleep, something inside of you begins to die. Adventure keeps your senses alive.
We’ve Always Been Rewarded – Our adventures have rewarded us with fruitfulness and a sense of fulfillment. We have experienced the joy of seeing transformation in the lives of others. We are watching young leaders grow to be exceptional leaders. We are now seeing a multi-generational harvest from seed that was sown with risk many years ago.
William Trogdon said, “There are two kinds of adventurers: those who go truly hoping to find adventure and those who go secretly hoping they won’t.” Which kind of adventurer are you? What are you doing this week that will make certain you don’t get bored, atrophied and shrivel up and die inside. Do you have anything adventurous on your schedule?
QUESTION: What kind of adventure brings you to life inside? Please share it below.
Oliver Wendell Holmes wrote, “We do not quit playing because we grow old; we grow old because we quit playing.” I totally agree. My granddaughters (ages 7 and 3) can play for hours and hours. Grandpa is worn out in minutes if it involves pretending to be Prince Eric with Princess Ariel of Little Mermaid fame. Yet, play as children and adults, is one of the very important things we can do to keep a healthy and vital life.
Granddaughters Analise & Rylee playing at our home.
Our culture tends to dismiss play for adults as unproductive, petty or guilty pleasure. The notion is that once we reach adulthood, it’s time to get serious. And often times, with all of our adult responsibilities of work and family, there is no time to play.
Play is just as pivotal for adults as it is for kids. The National Institute for Play believes that play can dramatically transform our personal health, our relationships, the education we provide our children and the capacity of our corporations to innovate.
Play is multi-faceted—including art, books, movies, sports, comedy, flirting and daydreaming. Dr. Stuart Brown calls play a “state of being” more than an activity. The activity may be anything from knitting to walking the dog.
Research proves that playing helps couples rekindle their relationship and explore other forms of intimacy. Play can facilitate deep connections between strangers. Play is a catalyst. A little can go a long way toward boosting our productivity and happiness.
Here’s some suggestions that will help you keep on playing:
Change how you think about play. Give yourself permission to play every day. It’s not just for lazy people or those who aren’t at the top of their game in the business world. It might be as simple as reading a non-work related book or going for a walk. It could be watching a humorous You Tube video like NASCAR driver Jeff Gordon in disguise taking a car salesman for a test drive.
Reflect on your play history. If you don’t have any current ways you play, start thinking back about what you did as a child that excited you. Did you engage in those activities alone or with others? Or both? How can you recreate that in some way today?
Surround yourself with playful people. Find friends that are playful and love to have fun. Play with your spouse or other family members. My wife and I love to walk to Starbucks or ride our bikes to a coffee shop on the water. We love to travel and see the world whenever possible. Taking a weekend to go somewhere out of the ordinary is fun. On special birthdays, we’ve gone hot air ballooning, parasailing and sky-diving.
Play with little ones. Playing with kids helps us experience the magic of play through their perspectives. Playing with your children or grandchildren, nieces or nephews is a place to start. I’m sure I’ll be playing a bunch more because our daughter is pregnant with twins, a boy and a girl!
My friend, Julie Baumgardner wrote, “Just as children need play to help them de-stress, adults need play to help them be at their best when it comes to career, parenting, and marriage. Instead of looking at play as a waste of precious time, consider it a great investment in your wellbeing.” What will you do this week to make sure you get some play time?
QUESTION: What kind of play works well for your health? Please share it below.
How do you gauge your humility level without becoming prideful? Is it possible to notice the growth of humility in your life and yet not become boastful? Can you be proud of your humility? Or is there such a thing as humble pride? Such an oxymoron, right? Sort of like jumbo shrimp, huh?
The wise King Solomon stated, “Humility is the fear of the Lord; it’s wages are riches and honor and life” (Proverbs 22:4). Scripture is instructing us here that humility can be recognized by a growing honor and respect for God. Changes in your relationship with God will impact your habits and relationships with others when it comes to humility and pride.
Today is the season of Passover on the Jewish calendar and Maundy Thursday on the Christian calendar. Both emphasize humility. The Matzah used in Jewish Passover celebrations is sometimes called the “bread of humility,” because it is unleavened with no yeast to make it rise and fluff up. Maundy Thursday commemorates Christ celebrating Passover by breaking bread with his closest followers in what we now commonly call the Last Supper.
However, the most powerful part of that final Passover dinner which Jesus shared with his disciples before his death on the cross is told in John 13:1-5. “It was just before the Passover Festival. Jesus knew that the hour had come for him to leave this world and go to the Father. Having loved his own who were in the world, he loved them to the end. The evening meal was in progress, and the devil had already prompted Judas, the son of Simon Iscariot, to betray Jesus. Jesus knew that the Father had put all things under his power, and that he had come from God and was returning to God; so he got up from the meal, took off his outer clothing, and wrapped a towel around his waist. After that, he poured water into a basin and began to wash his disciples’ feet, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around him.” (NIV)
That’s radical behavior in 1st century mid-eastern culture. It must have been a confusing and convicting moment for those disciples. It shocked them. Foot washing was essential in their dusty environment and it was always assigned to the lowliest servant in the household. Yet in this situation, the most esteemed person in the room voluntarily took on himself the most despised of household jobs. This was an amazing demonstration of humility! Jesus practiced His teaching of becoming great by being the servant of all.
Jesus acted out of his confidence in who and whose He was. “Jesus knew that the Father had put all things under his power, and that he had come from God and was returning to God, so he got up…” At the same time, we read in Luke’s version (see Luke 22:24-30) that the disciples were jockeying for position and prestige at the Passover table. What a contrast. Humble people don’t have an inferiority complex but those with low self-esteem usually give a cocky false impression of who they are on the inside.
So how are you doing with this humility thing? Can you confidently serve the people around you? How will you unexpectedly surprise someone with an act of servanthood? Why not look for an opportunity to bless someone this Holy week with a simple act of service?
And the rest of us would love for you to have just enough pride in your act of humility to share your story in the comment section below. Thanks!
All professions, businesses, organizations and ministries have people who are clambering to get to the top. Some push and shove. Some step over the fallen and struggling. Some just show themselves to be superior in talent and gifting. One way or another, getting to the peak ahead of everyone else is the goal. Leadership is great. It’s important. It’s necessary. It’s an honor. It’s needed. But what if the way to the top was actually down?
The leader who changed the pivotal measurement of millenniums said, “Whoever wants to be the greatest of all must become the servant of all” (See Mark 10:42-45). Jesus rattled established leaders and wanna-be leaders with his declarations of this new model of upside down leadership. Even his closest followers struggled to change their patterns of trying to climb the ladder.
Jim Collins made popular the concept of the Five Levels of Leadership through his book, Good to Great. Collin’s research unexpectedly revealed the greatest companies are led by leaders who put their organizations in a position to do great things without them.
Who exactly is a Level 5 leader? Collins describes Level 5 leader as Humility + Will = Level 5. They are the nurturing leaders who do not want credit but want success to sustain over a longer period of time, long after they are gone.
Level 5 leaders are modest and possess the capability to transform an organization from good to great without portraying themselves as wizards with magic wands. They prefer talking about the organization and the contribution of other people but rarely about their role or achievements.
Leadership expert, Robert Greenleaf and others have identified this upside down approach as servant leadership. Level Five Leadership and Servant Leadership have in common the heart of a leader who walks and leads with humility. Mark Sanborn writes, “If you use your title to get things done, you’re not really leading.”
I’ve discovered that authentic leaders always rise to the top through influence, not authority. Influence is always a result of caring for those you lead instead of coercing those you lead. And true followers follow out of commitment, not compliance.
Here are some questions to ask yourself to determine if you are an upside down leader?
Are you constantly climbing the ladder or intentionally going down the stairs?
Is your greatest concern for the success of your organization or your own success?
Are you focusing your responsibility toward others in your organization or emphasizing their responsibility to you?
Do you look for ways to serve the least of your organization or expect them to serve you?
Are you most often bragging about yourself or other team members around you?
I close by reminding you what Jim Collins said, “It’s not that Level 5 leaders have no ego or self-interest. Indeed, they are incredibly ambitious–but their ambition is first and foremost for the institution, not themselves.” How are you moving toward the next level of leadership?
QUESTION: When have you seen Level 5 leadership in action? Share it below.
I remember when it first hit me. My definition of success was challenged and I needed to rethink it. I had just read the book, The Elephant in the Boardroom: Speaking the Unspoken About Pastoral Transitions” by Carolyn Weese and J. Russell Crabtree. The line that rattled me was, “One way or another, every church will eventually lose its pastor or minister yet few congregations prepare for this dramatic event.” Approaching age 50 at the time, I had not thought seriously about that truth.
My thoughts of success had previously been focused on whether or not the church was healthy, vital, alive, making a difference in the community and growing—spiritually, numerically and financially. I really hadn’t considered what would happen when I retired from the lead pastoral role. In fact, statics convinced me that my major vocational investment had a very slim chance of continuing to thrive and return dividends after I retired. Now I begin to consider a different definition of success.
If I was really a “Level 5” leader like my mentors John Maxwell and Jim Collins had challenged me to become, then “legacy is created only when a person puts his organization into a position to do great things without him.” Maybe I should rethink success. I did. I began to redefine my measurement of success in ministry based on whether the church I had started and was leading was continuing to grow, be healthy, remaining vital and thriving five years after I was out of the lead seat.
The new measurement of success made a difference in my priorities. My top priority became the development of a succession plan. I started by developing an emergency succession plan in case I was suddenly unable to lead the organization. I also started preparing myself for a transition over the next years. I did lots of reading, some soul searching, significant prayer, dialogued with trusted friends and looked at my leadership sweet spot and what I really was most passionate about. I began to envision my new dream role in leadership inside the church and in the community.
Four years ago this week, I made a public leadership transition. Today, I can clearly say it was a success. All of the measurements of health, vitality and growth of the organization are going up and to the right. My own sense of well-being and satisfaction has increased.
This is the launch of my several-part story. A 5-minute version of it can be watched along with many other succession stories at Leadership Network’s free online Succession conference today (March 26, 2013) at this link. You can watch it for free today at 1pm EDT or purchase the right to watch it on your own schedule.
QUESTION: Have you ever raised up a leader to succeed you in an organization? I would love to hear more about it in the Comment section.
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You might be wondering why I’m promoting an online conference for tomorrow. My wife Linda and I have the privilege of speaking at this conference via video to tell our story of leadership succession. So, go ahead and check out this link to Church Leader Succession so you can see what it is all about and register. We are very honored to be in the speaking company of some heroes and leaders that have impacted us over our 34 years of ministry.
Leadership Network is the outstanding organization which is sponsoring this conference! They have been a huge help in my journey as a leader and in the success and growth of Cape Christian where I am the founding pastor. The seminars, the articles, the books, the learning communities that I have been connected to have helped me to grow as a leader and to grow other leaders.
Halftime, another partner of Leadership Network (both founded by Bob Buford), has affected my life immensely. I highly recommend any of their downloadable materials, books, seminars and conferences through the above link. Halftime International Spokesman, Lloyd Reeb, has blessed me with many hours of coaching and encouragement during my succession journey.
During the next several blog posts, I’ll be sharing some of my succession story and the learnings from the experience. Stay tuned!
QUESTION: Are you planning to watch the Succession online event? Let me know in the Comment section. Thanks!
During my first ministry experience in Elmira, NY, I always chuckled when I went to the north end of Walnut Street, which was the south gate entrance to the Woodlawn National Cemetery. I wasn’t laughing because Mark Twain was buried in that cemetery. Although Mark Twain was funny and said, “Humor is mankind’s greatest blessing.” I always chuckled for another reason. About 50 yards from the entrance to the cemetery was a “Dead End” traffic sign. It was ironic. It was an unintended twist on the truth.
I recently saw this statement on a DVD jacket—“It’s not a dead end if it takes you somewhere you needed to go.” I like that. Most of us think of a dead end road as a bad route to nowhere. But sometimes we do need to get to a dead end.
DEAD ENDS ARE GOOD WHEN THEY…
…KEEP US FROM SOMETHING WORSE. I’ve often been grateful for dead end signs that kept me from going off the street in a city with over 400 miles of canals. A “No” answer to a new job, a loan application and a potential relationship have saved me from a lot of stress and heartache. Dead ends are not necessarily a bad thing.
…FORCE US TO TURN AROUND. Sometimes I’ve missed the signs I should have seen much earlier at the beginning of the road. When there’s a barrier or a cul-de-sac in front of me, I have few options but to turn around. I’ve discovered that God knows how to put dead ends in our path when we haven’t carefully listened to his guidance along the way.
…MAKE US LOOK FOR DETOURS. Resistance and obstacles often force us to pay attention to other options. It’s easy to live life on cruise-control and end up going at a high-rate of speed to a bad destination. I know a lot of people who are now grateful for the economic crash of a few years back because the job they lost, the house foreclosure and the shaken-to-the-core experience demanded they reevaluate their priorities, their relationships and their values. Now, they love the change of scenery!
…CAUSE US TO DEPEND ON GOD. There’s an old saying, “There are no atheists in foxholes.” People tend to seek divine power when they are facing an extreme threat. People who are suddenly faced with no more pavement in front of them (whether it be financial, relational, health-related, career or other), usually cry out to God for strength, guidance, peace and power. And, that is a good thing. A self-powered life is not what God intended for His creation.
Remember, dead end living can be the best thing that happens to you. And, it’s not a dead end if it takes you somewhere you need to go. Happy traveling!
QUESTION: What would you add as a benefit of a dead end? Share it in the Comment section.
YOLO, a popular acronym, is frequently seen in text messages, on Facebook and other places where people are describing some new event or daring action they are about to embark on or just finished. YOLO is the acronym for “You Only Live Once.” It represents the contemporary version of “Carpe Diem,” a Latin aphorism for Seize the Day. The message is simple. Do not take life for granted.
The Oxford English Dictionary (OED) chose YOLO to be on its 2012 short list for their Word of the Year—along with trendy words like “Super Pac,” “Superstorm” and “Eurogedden.” I think OED accurately captured the way YOLO is typically inserted into conversations, “Typically used as rationale or endorsement for impulsive and irresponsible behavior.”
I don’t endorse impulsive and irresponsible behavior. As one who has spent the last 34 years in the helping profession as a pastor and police chaplain, I’ve invested a lot of hours listening to the horrendous consequences resulting from reckless actions and thoughtless decisions. I don’t recommend YOLO as an attitude to live life from if we use the definition of OED.
However, I would love to see all of us remember YOLO in the sense that we must not take life for granted. It’s vital that we seize the moment. Make sure every day, every hour counts. Live for more than success, live for significance.
Here’s what helps me and maybe it will help you too!
Know Your Identity – You are more than a 10-digit number in a crowded world. You are more than what your parents and teachers called you. You are a masterpiece of God. Really, you are! Ephesians 2:10 describes it this way, “For we are God’s masterpiece…” The original Greek language uses the word for poem. You are a poem of God. You were meant to express God’s heart in a unique and special way to the people around you.
Know Your Purpose – God wants you to understand your mission and purpose in life. My mission/purpose statement is to “Inspire transformissional living in others.” Through an intentional process of exploration, I’ve learned how my natural talents, spiritual gifts, personality, education, experience and my passion all intersect to accomplish my purpose of inspiring others to be constantly transformed by God’s love and grace as they live on mission.
Live with Intentionality – I’ve learned that default-mode living normally leads to coasting. You start taking life for granted. You don’t invest your time, talent and treasures with intentionality. And soon, life marches on and you have oodles of regrets—relationships have deteriorated, you have a boatload of “what ifs” and you might have experienced success but little significance. Intentional planning, learning, growing, giving, serving and loving create a life of fulfilling relationships and meaning.
So, remember YOLO—You Live Only Once. Don’t take life for granted. Seize the moment. Make today count!
QUESTION: What have I missed? Please comment below.
We’ve established that our physical, emotional and spiritual energy is finite, not unlimited. Just doing life, working and relating to people will drain our energy levels. You can name a ton more specific energy-drainers: financial stress, conflict, internal incongruity, health issues, insecurity and more. But, the question is, how do you restore and refuel your energy reserves?
In Part 1, I gave several suggestions about staying energized: Identify your energy-drainers, complete and accomplish tasks, exercise, eat right, help someone else and laugh more.
Here are some additional suggestions I have for staying energized:
Connect with God – This is where I start most every day. All of us was created to link to our Creator. God is the ultimate energy source. I connect with Him through reading the Bible and prayer.
Stay Positive – This is more crucial than you might think. “For as a man thinks in his heart, so is he” (Proverbs 23:7). It’s simple but hard to do. Negative attitudes deplete your energy. Positive thoughts energize.
Watch Your Words – Your thoughts influence your words and your actions. Your words influence the people and environment around you. “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18:21). Your words will either energize or drain you and all of the other people you connect with each day.
Feed Your Brain – Stimulate your brain by feeding it new and interesting content. I watch almost no television in a given week. But I do read every day and try to learn something new about leadership, photography and things I know very little about. You can’t afford not to read if you plan to grow and be energized.
Get Plenty of Rest – Everyone is different but most adults need 7-8 hours of sleep each day. When you don’t get enough rest, you get grumpy and you reduce your ability to handle stress.
Disconnect Regularly – We all need a change from routine to refill our energy tanks. Even God rested on the seventh day of creation. Divert daily. Withdraw weekly. Abandon annually. Find a hobby that recharges you. Mine is nature photography (See Gingerich PhotoArt)
Avoid Energy-Depleters – I have to be honest here. Some relationships are toxic. Some are a ginormous energy drain. Others totally energize you every time you are with them. I understand there’s a problem here if you are married to one who drains you. But, be honest, get counseling, work hard toward developing a life-giving relationship. And, make sure you are imparting life and energy to the people around you!
QUESTION: What have I missed? What do you do to boost your energy? Leave a comment below.
Energy is finite, not unlimited. Stress and pressure drain energy. Relational conflicts sap energy. Lack of internal consistency between who you really are and what you pretend to be will suck the life out of you. You can name a bunch more. But, the question is, how do you restore and refuel your energy reserves?
Here are some suggestions I have for staying energized:
Identify your energy-drainers – If you are out of touch with what empties your physical, emotional, relational and spiritual tank, you can’t stop it. Slow down and pay attention to the times you are exhausted and see if you can put your finger on the specific situations, people, activity or environments that sap you.
Accomplishment – This may seem counter-intuitive when you already may feel overworked. The idea here is not more work but finished work. When you complete tasks and check things off your list, it will boost your energy.
Exercise – We know exercise builds stamina and releases good chemicals into our system. But when we get busy, we tend to make excuses for our lack of exercise. But even just 3-4 times a week for 30-40 minutes can make a huge difference in your energy level.
Eat Right – Avoiding junk foods, fatty foods, sugary foods and alcohol will help prevent your energy levels from dropping during the day. Lots of water is good. Too much caffeine stimulates the body to produce adrenaline and then eventually, when it runs out, you will feel exhausted.
Help Someone – When you make an effort to bless someone else by helping them in some way or another, you feel good about it and your energy level increases.
Laugh – We all need to smile more, laugh more and enjoy life. If we spend our entire day facing conflict, solving problems and managing tension, our energy reserves will be depleted. A good laugh can give a big energy boost.
I don’t want to drain your energy by too long of a read so I’ll stop for now. I have several more. Look for Part 2.
QUESTION: What boosts your energy? Please share it below. Thanks!
